Father's Day can be a complex day
- Silke van Loenen
- Jun 16, 2024
- 2 min read
Today it is Father´s Day in the Netherlands (and other countries too) and I am sending love to anyone who finds this day difficult.
Father's Day can be a complex day too
Plenty of reasons why Father's Day can be a complex day.
Maybe you lost a child.
Maybe you longed to be a dad, but you never met the right partner.
Maybe your father was a narcissist and for your wellbeing had to cut all contact.
Maybe you were abandoned, given up for adoption.
Maybe you lost your dad.
Maybe a child or children are no longer in your life.
Whatever the reason is....
....I am sending love to:
those loving fathers
those who lost a child
those who are abandoned
those who are childless not by choice
all fur-ball dads
those who are struggling with fatherhood
those going through infertility
those who lost their children
those who lost their dad
those who no longer have a dad
those who never had a father
those who have a complex father relationship
The complexity of Father's Day
Fathers´s Day can leave you feel lonely, heavy or sad, more than you would have expected to feel.
Father´s Day might be a shit day. Allow yourself to grieve, feel angry, immensely sad, hurt. Allow your feelings to be. Allow tears to flow. There is no right or wrong here. It is all okay.
All your feelings are valid
You feel what you feel and all your feelings are valid. Just know that if it feels complex, for whatever reason, you are not alone.
Take good care of yourself today.
Be kind to yourself.
Go easy on yourself.
Sending you love 💗
Silke
P.S. I always wanted to have a family. I just never met the right guy. When I met my partner, I was already in my forties and no longer interested in starting a family. Trust me, I have grieved. I am at peace with being childless. I am a happy and proud aunt of 5 and I am a cat mum.
My partner is a proud and happy uncle and a cat dad.
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